The good thing that came from the craigslist casual disaster of 13′ is that now I can feel like I can handle anything when it comes to meeting people off the internet. It can only go up from here! So I joined OKCupid.
Joining OKCupid is actually a really good thing to do when you get out of a serious relationship. You get to express yourself and feel like people are interested in you. You can be distracted by other people and who they are.
I put in my profile that i’m just here to have fun and meet new people and not looking for anything serious so i don’t feel that much pressure when messaging people. I don’t feel pressure to be flirty or cute.
If anything i think it’s a way to practice dating again. I haven’t been on a first date since i was 20. Even before that you don’t really go on “dates” in high school and college like you do in the real world. I’m a different person and I don’t know how the person I am now dates.
So I’ve been messaging back and forth with some cute guys, they’re all pretty different. There’s a super laid-back video game developer, an intense and flirty psychoanalytical-type, a sensitive music blogger. I’ve noticed I kind of talk to all of them differently. Like they bring out different sides of myself. Which is useful to reflect on. A goal of mine is to be able to unite every side of myself in every conversation, date, interaction I encounter.
I’m tired of trying to be a certain person towards a certain person because I think it’s what they want of me. The awesome thing about OKCupid is that there is an endless supply of potential people to get to know. There’s no point in wasting time on someone who you can’t be completely natural and yourself towards.
I have more thoughts on this but I’ll have to save them for later. I need to do a post on the top ten crazy personality questions on ok cupid.